Good grounding and large families: two great gifts in the Church

Good grounding and large families: two great gifts in the Church


Protopresbyter Vasileios Kalliakmanis


The prayers at a wedding make reference to providing children with a good upbringing and to ‘the enjoyment of procreation’. It may be that the Fathers of the Church, by and large, praise the superiority of virginity over marriage, but at the same time they consider parents to be co-creators with God. Procreation is in line with the will of God and is an obstacle to death .

In his desire to support women who were accused of being responsible for their lack of children, Saint John Chrysostom teaches that the birth of children depends on the providential action of God. He writes: ‘… since everything is from the creator of nature, neither intercourse nor anything else is able to contribute to the propagation of children unless touched by the hand from above and unless nature has been moved towards birth’ . At another point, referring to the childlessness of Anna, the mother of Samuel, he says: ‘birth-giving has its origin in God’s providence, and neither female nature, nor intercourse, nor anything else, by itself, is sufficient’ .

The importance attributed to children from the very beginning by the Church is apparent in many texts in our tradition. Chrysostom in particular sketches the framework for the way Christians should bring up their children. He insists on timely and lenient training and the negative and positive method of developing a child’s character. He poses the question of punishment, of gifts, making them aware of the beauties of nature, prayer, guarding one’s feelings, reading the Scriptures, the importance of parental example and, above all, the great value of loving without any ulterior motive.

Saint Basil the Great, too, advises young people on how to train their bodies, how to choose the path of virtue, how to avoid riches and worldly glory and so on.

It ought also to be noted that having a large family isn’t only a blessing, but is also a gift. It’s a gift, so there’s no cause for parents to be proud of themselves over it. And having a large family has to be linked with giving those children a proper grounding. Chrysostom again: ‘It’s not sowing his seed that makes a father, but also training his children well; and bearing children isn’t what makes a mother, but bringing them up properly’ . Those of us who are unable to have large families can at least pay great attention to bringing up any children we do have. This is true of everyone, whether they have many children or not.




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